Tuesday, December 17, 2013
Its a coming of Another New Year........... 2013 recap
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
October 2011
So what has changed and what has not?
Saturday, September 3, 2011
Perhaps its for the best...
With issues of the heart,
Which as of dates has no other role,
But to make my spirits fall apart.
I wonder why I really care,
About having love and somebody there
When all I feel is hurt
And all my dreams are burnt.
I wonder why I cry,
For someone who doesn't care why,
False promises and broken lies,
Deep agony as time goes by.
I wonder if this is all a test,
To see whether I'll be better than the rest,
Although my heart and head are in a mess,
Perhaps its for the best.
Thursday, August 4, 2011
We plan..... God decides.
Regardless, I love my life and the process of going through it. I have all faith that no matter what comes before me, God will always protect me and help me get through. Its the very essence of the Universe. Life has already been set for us, but we are still given the choice to decide which ending we want - just like those gamebooks I use to read when I was younger. Except for the choices we have are more bountiful compared to a left turn. Some choices bring joy, others bring tears. But everything that happens occurs for the best.
The most recent choice that I had to make was decide on my love life. Everything else was falling into place except for that single aspect. It is difficult to determine the outcome for relationships because there are 2 equal major variables that influences the outcome. I have exhausted my side trying to make it work and perhaps this is for the better. We both need time. I know it, God knows it. And perhaps having to let go of the love of my life for this moment in time although painful is perhaps the wisest thing to do at this point.
I know that my friends or people looking at us would never understand what I see in this particular person. The fact that I kept the relationship a secret from everyone for the first 3-5 months baffles even my dearest friends. We had our reasons. But purposely ignoring me for a whole month is perhaps a bit too overboard. Whatever I did that may have offended this person, does not warrant such a treatment. So after pondering it for days, I've decided the issue is with him and not me, and I will no longer wonder why. God knows what's best.
I keep having the same dream, over and over again. We are together and he hugs me tight, but tells me that he can't stay long and he has to go. It is so vivid that it almost feels so real. He doesn't say that he loves me, but I can feel his passion when he hugs me for that few minutes and his eyes seem to not want me to go. But then he disappears. He always does. This scene would last for 5 minutes and then it goes. My maid told me today that she has been having this weird dream of pigeons in the house one white and one black. She holds on to the white one, and the black one tries to enter the house but he can't find the way in.
Its almost 2 months since I last met him down south. The last good memory was the evening breeze as we sat by the strait overlooking Singapore island. My eyes stung from the tears I had cried prior. Despite the mixed emotions, being around him always gave me a sense of calm, and automatically my whole body and mind would come to a serene relaxation mode. It is this calmness that I miss so much. He's like the brakes to my overwhelming adrenaline pumping hectic dramatic lifestyle. No other man in my whole life has that effect on me. And that is a crucial missing point that I really need in my life - a break. Only a person who runs a schedule like mine would really understand the importance of it.
Sometimes I wished that God would allow us to meet so that I can get his side of the story. But God is All-Knowing, and perhaps it is not the best time for us to confront, if we were to see each other again. I could only pray that God gives us the best choices for our lives, whether together or not.
Oh well, its no point stressing on this now. There are still many things ahead of us, and perhaps this is one of the dramas of my life where we yet to know the ending. If we are meant to be, we will be, regardless of the obstacles. If not, then God will find me a better man. Amen.
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
Wait for you......
The warm breeze that blew that day,
Marked the day you went away,
You could see the tears in my eyes,
As we were forced to say goodbye....
Although the distance is temporary,
Can't deny the pain of solitary,
You hugged me close and whispered in my ear,
Promise me babe, you'll wait for me here....
And in a wink, you disappeared,
Leaving me alone here..
I will wait for you baby,
As long as you need me to,
I'll keep this promise I hold baby,
Until you pull through,
No matter how long it takes,
No matter how high the stakes,
I will wait for you baby,
As long as you remain true...
Saturday, April 2, 2011
Sometimes I wonder......
Sometimes I wonder,
What is it that you are searching for,
Am I not good enough,
That you choose to ignore,
Does all the riches in the world mean so much to you,
Than having me by your side loving you?
Money, power and wealth will definitely come,
But if you have all and is alone would it be fun?
Life is too short to be wasted away,
Is your ego too big to even ask me to stay?
Perhaps its not me that you dream in your sleep at night,
The silent spell you cast makes it seem right.
Although I am superwoman,
I will never be a man,
The silence you pledge is not one that I can understand,
To the point I'd rather hear you utter harsh words,
Or whatever method so that you can be heard,
But you chose the silence that cuts through worst than any knife,
Might as well you take my life,
Because have you ever stop to think that the silence has an ability to kill,
The strong love we had, that I crave still.
Perhaps what I want and what you want are two different things,
And perhaps we do not even share the same feelings,
But how on earth will I ever know,
If keeping quiet is what you show.
Would you be selfish enough to lead me on,
And at the end of the day, move on.
With tears in my eyes I pray that it is not true,
For happiness is what I feel when loving you,
Except for the silence, everything else is in place,
Such wonderful love all gone to waste,
But seriously darling, would you submit to your ego,
Of keeping quiet until I choose to go,
If I chose that road, there will be no return,
No regrets, no shame, and love all burnt.
Friday, April 1, 2011
Between Love, Wealth and Power........
Being me is possibly one of the most hectic jobs around, although many friends express their jealousy of the flexibility of my time and work. Yeah, but then I work all the time, other people get to clock out at 5.The earnings are good as long as I am willing to pour in the extra effort, and mind you, most of it is your own effort.
Which is why my time is highly valuable. Time is money. And in the line of what I am doing, network is of utmost importance. Hence you could imagine the stress I am going through when I lost my Iphone. Luckily I have a back-up of my contacts and applications in my macbook but it still leaves me to have to buy another phone. Wish it was that simple.
But despite all the chaos going around in my world, I know it doesn't bother me that much since its always been chaos. Just needs a little more effort to get it to the point I want it to. What bothers me is whether am I making the right decisions for my own personal life. Unfortunately, only God knows.
Being an alpha female is never easy. Especially when you have empathy on board. Despite telling myself I will not make any excuses for a guy, I find myself spiraling down the same tunnel. Its not exactly healthy to the mind. It bears worst for the heart. And I keep asking myself day by day why do I let myself be hurt by my beau's complete ignorance of me.
Young men are so naive. They believe that they have to act so macho in front of a woman so that they don't lose their manhood. It is completely bullshit. A real man has the capability to tackle his surroundings and at the same time keep the woman that he loves happy. There is a misconception on what makes a woman happy. For younger women, material items makes them feel happy but its temporary. As you mature, (and have the capability to buy your own goodies and diamonds) all these material items are not so important anymore. What is more important is the attention. No point having a beau if he is not concerned about your daily happenings.
A lot of guys ask me this, why do they need to text the girlfriend everyday, and that they like their privacy. I simply answered, a relationship involves 2 people. Therefore, you can't just think about what you like, but what the other would prefer. If you go around doing only what you like with disregard of what the other person feels or wants, then definitely the other person is sacrificing his/her own comfort to compensate yours. In time, this will lead to more dissatisfaction and cause the relationship to wilt and break. Besides, smses cost 10 cents. Men spend more on cigarettes. And it'll save you the hassle of having to fight with your girl daily. Girls just want attention, if you don't give them any, they'd feel unappreciated.
The best part is, the moment they hit 35-40, they become more fatherly and concerned, so young stuffs get excessive attention. Which is why I won't tolerate this sort of treatment. I've been married before, I know exactly how I want the relationship to be. Having a communication breakdown is probably bliss for the man, but hey, I'm just human. If I feel unwanted I'll just walk. No more sacrificing for people who do not appreciate it.